You say if you really had your choice, you would be wealthy, happy, and fulfilled, and yet you are not. Therefore, you reason, you could not possibly have chosen your present situation.
Certainly, there are many things that people cannot, and do not, choose. The loss of a loved one, a debilitating disease, a sudden injury, or a criminal attack are just a few things over which there is little or no control. But even in those situations you are not without choice. While it might be true that you cannot change those circumstances, you can choose your attitude, and thus, your response to them. Will you let them master your attitude, or will you choose in what manner you face them?
So, while granting a concession to the unforeseen calamities you experienced, the fact remains that everything else in your life you have chosen.
Why is it such a statement brings freedom to some people and anger to others? It is because to admit that one’s life is largely the result of choice places the responsibility and the consequences of one’s life squarely on the shoulders of every individual human being. If your life really is a result of your own choice then you, and nobody else, is responsible for your present situation.